Having friends is great. It gives us a sense of community and helps to elevate us. Humans are social creatures and therefore need to be with others. But, can there ever be too much of a good thing?
When you make new friends, you will need to nurture those friendships. This requires a time commitment. Some friends are low-maintenance and don’t require constant attention to keep the friendship intact. Others, however, will eat up a good chunk of your time.
The more friends you gain, the more shuffling of your time you will be expected to manage. You’ll have more conflicts with time between different groups of friends. Some will become hurt just by you not attending during gatherings.
Unfortunately, the friends you want to spend the least time with are the ones that are usually more demanding, all things being equal. They have emotional needs that can be draining to you if you are exposed too often. Sometimes, you just need to hang out with people who aren’t going to require much of you. It’s just fun and no huge attachments are necessary. Of course, these types of friends won’t likely be your closest. They are just drinking buddies or people you get together to play sports with, etc.
You also need to watch out for people who pretend to be your friend just to try and get you to do things for them. You’ll recognize these people over time as they continue to call to help them with chores but are nowhere to be found when you need help. You’ll be spending a large chunk of your free time giving to them and they won’t return the favor. When you run into this situation, it’s time to cut the friendship chord. Friendships are a two-way street.
Be careful of the friendships you gain online. People can remain anonymous and they may not even be who they say they are. You could find yourself a victim of a scam or come across someone who will cause you physical harm. It’s okay to find friends online. Just be careful about what they are asking you to do.
Friendships take time and we could all use more time. Balance your need for friendship with your ability to manage the time required for being with those friends. In this way, it’s better to have a few great friends than it is to have several mediocre ones. The good news is you get to determine who those friends are going to be.